“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” —Marianne Williamson, Return to Love
Recently I celebrated a friend’s birthday. As the evening wore on, I grew tired and unfocused. A friend arrived late to the party. He seemed very focused and excited. Apparently his business deal went well. His light shone brightly. And I felt happy for him, not at all tired as I had been.
It had me thinking about how often we don’t share our “wins” with each other for fear that we will make others jealous or feel bad about their lot. Wow. Not only do we dim our light, we can’t see the light in others when we withhold. Sure, we risk the possible petty comments from others who might be dimming their light and hoping that they won’t be “called out”. Yet, in holding ourselves back, we don’t give those who are ready to risk, the option of seeing a pathway before them.
My daughter received a new car. She’s a responsible driver with more than average responsibility in her life. These rewards keep coming to her with things like a new job, a part in a community theater play, and one in an adult theater play, more accolades at school as she’s inducted into the Beta Club. The friends that she has who are supportive and happy for her “wins” will likely do well themselves. And those who are not, who find themselves lamenting all that they do NOT have, will create more lack in their lives.
Again, jealousy is a map to what you want. Notice where you encourage the light in others. Notice how the warmth of that encouragement lights YOUR fire. When you shine brightly for yourself and others, it will also show you where the shadows fall. Keep shining and move toward the light!!